“Socialization for conforming to traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict, and negatively influence mental health and physical health,” the association warned.
It’s the first time in its 127-year history that the APA has issued guidelines to help psychologists specifically address issues with men and boys. The APA previously released a number of guidelines for working with different patient populations, including guidance for working with girls and women in 2007 and guidelines for working with LGBT clients, older adults and racial and ethnic minorities.
The latest guidelines linked “constricted notions of masculinity” to aggression, homophobia and misogyny, saying such notions “may influence boys to direct a great deal of their energy into disruptive behaviors such as bullying, homosexual taunting, and sexual harassment rather than healthy academic and extracurricular activities.”
private messaging friends: lmaO so anryrywya im fuckgng crygn
private messaging someone for the first time: Hello, nice to finally talk to you! It’s wonderful that we have the chance to communicate through this messaging service - anyway, enough of me blathering on like a fool, how are you?
can girls stop judging other girls for not using tampons
it’s literally annoying sometimes when i’m talking to someone and we talkin about girl problems and they’re like OMG HOW CAN YOU WEAR THAT DIAPER JUST TRY TAMPONS like some people can’t physically wear tampons so frick off pls
When I was a freshman in high school, we were changing int he bathroom for gym and a senior asked if anyone had an extra pad. This girl goes, “No. I’m not fucking twelve.”
NEVER SAY THAT. Some women physically can’t use tampons. And personally, I have anxiety about having them in all the time because of toxic shock, so I occasionally go a couple hours with just a pad. Don’t make fun of anyone for this
My bod won’t let me wear tampons, leave me alone
Being physically incapable is a completely fair reason and I’m not trying to disagree with that. But also, some people just, don’t like tampons. An that’s fair too.
What Native people say about the use of sage: you can use sage, but you cannot smudge as nothing you are doing (waving sage around) is actually smudging. Smudging is a ceremony and you are, we promise, not smudging. Please buy sage from either us, or someone who sources the sage from us. White sage may not be considered endangered by the US government but corperate sourcing is making it difficult for us to source sage for our own religious purposes. Let alone to sell it.
What white people hear: never use sage ever, don’t ever buy it, don’t own it, don’t even look at it.
Look, y’all. There’s a couple of facets to my talk today.
1) Yes! You can buy sage! You really, truly can! Buy it from either native sellers (go to a powwow! Eat our food, buy our stuff, watch some dancing!) Or buy it from a seller who sources the sage from native people. Pick one. And no, buying it from 5 Below doesn’t count.
2) you CANNOT smudge. This isn’t just you “shouldn’t”— this is a YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF SMUDGING. Waving a sage stick around your doorways IS NOT SMUDGING. It is smoke clensing. Smudging, depending on the tradition and tribe, could easily have dancing and drums involved. You, as a white person, do not have the cultural BACKGROUND to even know how it works. At all. Period.
3) please, for FUCKS SAKE, stop making posts here on tumblr where you tell other white people about cultural appropriation and what they can and cannot do. Please stop, your license has been revoked because none of you bother to get the facts right. We native people are FULLY CAPABLE OF DOING IT OURSELVES. Consider instead: a) reblogging our posts where we talk about it! We’re here! We have made posts!! b) Making a post that states what we said and then LINKS BACK TO US. Screenshot with a link if you must. Stop centering your own voices in these conversations. You are already centered in everything, stop centering yourselves in a native space.
If a sitting president threatens to hold government employees hostage and shut down the government for years because the other branches of government won’t give him absolute power, then he should be fucking impeached.
American friends just be watchful in 2020 if it looks like he’s going to loose, especially if he’s going to lose to a woman or a member of a minority..
people really need to stop making fun of young trans boys who go through the “im a soft plant boy uwu” phase, who dye their hair pastel colors, who go through the space prince phase, who dresses very feminine. realizing you’re trans can be pretty tough so staying “soft” can be a good middle ground for these young boys who were previously raised feminine. making fun of young trans men that call themselves soft/soft boys is so harmful. let them find themselves, grow out of it on their own. if you consider yourself an “elder” and make fun of these kids you’re a terrible role model.
if you’re cis you can rb this just don’t speak on the subject
Some dont grow out of it! Some stay that way because that’s how they’re comfortable presenting. It doesn’t make them any less of a man.
Some even grow into it, actually. After trying to pass as cis and “fit in” by performing masculinity to the extreme, many trans men reconnect with their feminine side (cause we all have one).
Young trans men calling themselves soft and a “pretty boy uwu” isn’t harmful nor is adult trans men doing so.
It’s strange to me that dyed hair, gender ambiguity, and other “extra” aesthetics, which for so long were a huge part of the queer community are now being made fun of or sneered at or found annoying.
The phrasing of “let them grow out of it”/calling their gender expression a phase hits a bit too close to home when talking about a group that was likely told similar things about their gender identity and I’m sure it wasn’t purposeful but it’s worth pointing out.
Personally I think the world could use a few more soft space plant princes.
What’s harmful: cis people feminizing trans men for their fetish or just hating any trans men who doesn’t wear traditional masculine outfits.
every single negative stereotype about women was dreamt up by men who were projecting. fight me about it.
“women can’t drive”
It is so well known that women are better and safer drivers than men that OUR CAR INSURANCE RATES ARE LOWER. Women get into fewer accidents, get fewer DUIs, and receive fewer speeding tickets than men.
“women never shut up”
Several scientific studies have shown that not only do men talk more than women, they also think that women have been talking for much longer than they actually have. Men interrupt and talk over women, dominate conversations, and still think women talk too much.
“women are shallow”
Lol next
“my wife is my ball and chain lmao”
Multiple studies have shown that marriage between men and women: Increases male lifespan, decreases female lifespan Decreases male depression rates, increases female depression rates Decreases male stress levels, increases female stress levels Increases male health and happiness, decreases female health and happiness Increases a man’s chance of getting a raise or promotion, decreases a woman’s chances of getting a raise or promotion
“women are too emotional”
Men love to say this about women after hurting them, in order to shift the blame and dismiss their feelings in one go. In reality, women are taught to hold our tongues and control ourselves quite literally from birth. We’re taught to put men’s needs and wants ahead of our own emotions regardless of the personal cost. Men are taught to do more or less whatever the fuck they want to women. Men take their emotions out on women while women are expected to shove theirs down.
I could go on and on but I don’t really think I need to.
“women are shallow” (just read the book, Dataclysm. by okcupid founder (?) that includes data about sex, gender, race, in finding online romantic partners)
My roommate Madi is trans and was just unjustly fired from her server job. She is starting school, an unpaid internship and traveling to New York for surgery consultation in the next month, and this was her only source of income.
If you have anything to give please consider donating to her venmo @Doglover420
I remember first learning that you can cry from any emotion, that emotions are chemical levels in your brain and your body is constantly trying to maintain equilibrium. so if one emotion sky rockets, that chemical becomes flagged and signals the tear duct to open as an exit to release that emotion packaged neatly within a tear. Everything made sense after learning that. That sudden stability of your emotions after crying. How crying is often accompanied by the inability to feel any other emotion in that precise moment. And it is especially beautiful knowing that it is even possible to experience so much beauty or love or happiness that your body literally can’t hold on to all of it. So what I’ve learned is that crying signifies that you are feeling as much as humanely possible and that is living to the fullest extent. So keep feeling and cry often and as much as needed
SHIT WHAT
Also let yourself cry. It really is a biochemical release valve to dump out all the chemicals that make you feel stuff.
I honestly think one reason men in western culture have so many problems is that we don’t let them cry, and literally their brains get stuffed with all this crap that doesn’t have a release valve. Men, please cry. You’ll feel better. It’s ok. You are not lesser for taking care of your health.
This is why tears from different emotions look different under an electron microscope. They’re literally made up of different things.
Happy tears are structurally different than sad tears than angry tears than overwhelmed tears etc.
I looked it up, cuz that tidbit was dope to me and..
Millennials and Gen Z: Trump shows signs of being a genocidal dictator, we shouldn’t vote for him
Baby boomers: OOOOO Is your Safe Space being violated by his comments snowflake??? How AWFUL IT must be to have a REAL man for president instead of OoOoBamA
Trump, after being voted into office: *leaves the UN human rights council, puts hundreds of young children into prison camps and tent cities, takes away valuable items like rosaries similar to the removal of rings during the Holocaust, puts babies and toddlers into foster homes/orphanages, literally treats ACTUAL CHILDREN like prisoners for wanting a better life elsewhere*
Baby boomers: oh….oh no….
Millennials and Gen Z: *stare into the camera like they’re on the office*
bold of you to assume the boomers have reached the “oh no” point
